A huge part of understanding how to find peace between your ears is knowing your cut.
Some people move through this world incredibly fast, get things done at lightning speed, and don’t look back.
Some people take their time, move slowly and do one thing at a time thoroughly.
And some hang out somewhere between the two and find their groove in the middle lane.
Knowing which lane you thrive in, and knowing that is your cut, can make the difference between self acceptance and self hatred.
Once you know what lane you thrive in you can create a world around you that supports your natural disposition.
You can create patterns around it, fortresses around it, relationships around it, QUEENDOMS around it.
You can also run from your natural cut, and be miserable. It’s up to you to design a life that you love. It’s up to you to know your patterns, know your cut, and know what you need.
And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed is because I find some person place thing or situation that is unacceptable to me. I can’t find peace until I learn to except that person place or thing as exactly the way it is supposed to be in this moment.
I love looking at patterns of what I naturally do, compared to what I think I should be doing.
Often, when I’m looking for something, trying to figure something out, I take a step back and literally say out loud, what would I do? Or where would I put it? Or what would I say? And that’s usually my answer.
I know that myself, now that I am almost 50 years old. But when I was in my 20s and 30s I was clueless; lost in my lane, not sure which end was up and why I always felt like NOTHING FIT.
If I had read a blog post about such things BACK THEN it would’ve have taken me far. Had I been able to slow down enough to take the words in and really observe them, it would have changed a lot of self sabotage.
In Chiropractic we talk about a force hitting the system, time to integrate that force and the detriment to the system if we’re not able to integrate it.
I beg you, urge you, invite you to take these words as a gentle force to integrate and know that they can shape shift your life:
You are perfect, just the way you are. Your cut is your cut, don't try to change it. Yield into it, make the world form to fit you.
If you know your cut, if you know the lane you do best in, you can build a world around you that feels comfortable and safe and secure.
A world without self-doubt. A world where you understand who you are and what makes you tick and who you are not and what does not serve you.
You will then be able to ask for what you need. You will then be able to discover what you need.
One of the reasons I cherish my friendships so much is because my friends are quickly able to point out patterns that I can’t always clearly see. And I do the same for them. I love looking at patterns for my peeps, my clients, my patients; as they are so much easier to see than my own.
And there are tools, that we can stick in our Strong Women Toolbox to find our patterns. To call them out, let the shitty ones go, grab tight onto the great ones and move on.
Check out this link for getting some useful tools around Patterning Work; the link will lead you to a vault of info on my site, with some cool stuff to help you find your way, find your patterns.
Hope you love it. I sure do.